I was thinking about the importance of today's date off and on all day today. Ty would be 3 months old today if he would've been born on his due date. I would be celebrating my baby's first holiday tomorrow and looking forward to the next two that will be here before I know it. I know I would've dressed Ty up for his first Halloween and I couldn't help but browse the Halloween costumes online to see what he might've been.
Perhaps a cute little horsey!
Or a cute little puppy!
Instead to mark Ty's first Halloween I carved a pumpkin for my angel in heaven.
My Dearest Ty Gavin,
I hope you have the best 1st Halloween in Heaven! Please help watch over all your little cousin's as they go trick-or-treating tomorrow night. I would've loved to have taken your picture with your cousins tomorrow night but instead you will be trick or treating in Heaven with Jesus.
I saw this design on a pregnancy loss site and printed it out onto an address label sticker and then I printed another with Ty's name and date on it. I have it sitting on Ty's shelf in our bedroom now.
These candles were all the one's that I lit. The red one in the front is for my husband's cousin Debbie and her husband Dave's son Kolton James who was born at 17 weeks on January 12, 2008 and next to it is Ty's candle. In the back the one on the far right was lit for my brother-in-law Tom and sister-in-law Jennifer's first baby who they lost in the first trimester, the two beside that candle were lit for my friend Jeanine's two 1st trimester loses (she lost babies in between her oldest daughter and son and then between her son and her youngest daughter), the one last one in the back is for all the amazing women whose stories I've read about on a blog or who I know in real life who have also experience a loss. And the tall taper candle is from Ty's Grandma Sandy. She brought that candle and candle holder over to light for Ty.
Next is all the pictures I received from friends and family who lit a candle in rememberance.
Tom and Jennifer's Candle
Grandma Lylia's Candle at work
Tammy's Candle
Patti's Candle
Grandpa Lyle's CandleDonna's Candle
I thank each and everyone of you who lit a candle for Ty. It meant a lot to me and even brightened everything for a few days. May you always remember October 15th as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Rememberance Day.
Tomorrow marks a very important day for me. One that I was dreading and also looking forward to. When we lost our son Ty in March I found out that October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. I was dreading this day because I was thinking how can I ever really celebrate our wedding anniversary (October 14th) knowing the next day (October 15th) I would be remembering the loss of Ty. That day is tomorrow. I type this up as I celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary. I am actually looking forward to tomorrow and it doesn't take away today's celebration. I look forward to lighting a candle for our precious Ty. I'm sending out this email to friends and family tonight because I have had a really tough time with the loss of our son. I do okay with everything for the most part but the one thing that I do not like is that I don't want anyone to forget about him or think that he wasn't real. He was and always will be a special part of Greg's and my lives. Please light a candle at 7:00 tomorrow and let it burn for 1 hour. Remember our son Ty Gavin Fischer who was called to be in heaven with Jesus instead of on earth with his loving parents. Also remember anyone else in your lives who has lost a pregnancy,a baby, or an infant. I know I will also be thinking of my dear sister-in-law Jennifer and the pregnancy she lost in the first trimester, I will think of my friend Jeanine who lost a couple of pregnancies in the first trimester, I will be thinking of my husband's cousin Debbie who lost her second child Kolten James (who is Ty's angel buddy I'm sure) in the second trimester, my friend Missy who lost a few pregnancies in the first trimester and also many of the wonderful women whose blogs helped and continue to help me with my grief over losing Ty. I have one favor to ask of you though. As you light your candle and think of Ty and the other babies please take a picture of that candle for me. Please send me your pictures because I would love to have some pictures of candles lit for Ty to put in his scrapbook. I would be floored if you all could do this for me and I know Ty will be smiling down from heaven knowing how much he's loved by all of you.
October 15th was created to provide support, education and awareness for those who are suffering or may know someone who has suffered a miscarriage, an ectopic pregnancy, a still birth, or the loss of an infant. We hope that we can help you by giving you and all of the other parents, grandparents, siblings, relatives, and friends a special day of remembrance. This special day of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance is October 15th of every year. Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is to promote Support, Education and Awareness for grieving parents nationwide (and worldwide). Too many families grieve in silence, sometimes never coming to terms with their loss. Our goal is to help others relate to our loss, know what to say, do or not say, not do and to help families live with their loss, not "get over" their loss.
"When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn't a word to describe them."
Robyn Bear, founder of http://www.october15th.com/, and founder of October 15th, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day envisioned a day when all grieving parents could come together and be surrounded by love and support from their friends and families, a day where the community could better understand their pain and learn how to reach out to those grieving. This would be a day to reflect on the loss yet embrace the love. While our babies’ lives where so brief, they were also very meaningful. Yet, there was not a time to talk about them. Our society seemed to forget or perhaps, simply didn't know how to reach out. Since October had been proclaimed "Awareness Month", she chose a day, in the middle of the month to become, "Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day".
Instead to mark Ty's first Halloween I carved a pumpkin for my angel in heaven.
These candles were all the one's that I lit. The red one in the front is for my husband's cousin Debbie and her husband Dave's son Kolton James who was born at 17 weeks on January 12, 2008 and next to it is Ty's candle. In the back the one on the far right was lit for my brother-in-law Tom and sister-in-law Jennifer's first baby who they lost in the first trimester, the two beside that candle were lit for my friend Jeanine's two 1st trimester loses (she lost babies in between her oldest daughter and son and then between her son and her youngest daughter), the one last one in the back is for all the amazing women whose stories I've read about on a blog or who I know in real life who have also experience a loss. And the tall taper candle is from Ty's Grandma Sandy. She brought that candle and candle holder over to light for Ty.
Next is all the pictures I received from friends and family who lit a candle in rememberance. 
Donna's Candle
